50 BETTER WAYS TO ASK YOUR KIDS “HOW WAS SCHOOL TODAY?”

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Do you find it hard to get a full sentence from your children when you ask, “how was school today?”.

It’s a simple question, which is why children most often give an automated and single response like, “fine” or “good”.  If you would like to have engaging conversations with your children about their school day or at least get more than just a single word our then you just need to ask engaging questions.

I have a list of 50 questions that encourage to get responses about specific aspects of a school day. Some of these questions indirectly ask about your child’s day, which may help if you suspect that your child may be bullied or something like that.

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5o Engaging Questions To Ask Your Kids:

  1. What did you enjoy most about your day?
  2. Who did you play with today?
  3. What was something silly that happened today?
  4. What new word did you learn today?
  5. Did you get called on by the teacher to answer a question? What was it?
  6. What was your favorite part of lunch?
  7. If you could switch seats with anyone in your class, who would you trade with? Why?
  8. Where do you play the most at recess?
  9. What did you read today?
  10. How can you be more of a helper at school?
  11. What made you laugh today?
  12. How did your friends make you feel today?
  13. Who is the funniest person in your class?
  14. What exciting thing did you learn today?
  15. Who would you like to play with at recess that you’ve never played with before?
  16. If your teacher let you do any activity that you wanted to do in class, what would it be?
  17. What didn’t you like about your day?
  18.  If you could have one superpower that could only be used at school, what would it be? Why?
  19. If you could make your own lunch, what would you pack?
  20. Did you get bored today?
  21. Did you cut with scissors or use glue today?
  22. What did you do that was creative?
  23. Who did you sit with at lunch?
  24. Tell me your top two things from your day?
  25. What made you feel proud?

    Ask a few questions since not every question will pertain to your children.

  26. What are you looking forward to tomorrow?
  27. Did you tell anyone, “thank you?”
  28. Is there anything that the teacher taught that you don’t understand?
  29. Does everyone have a friend at recess? If not, what can you do to help them?
  30. Was anyone not nice to someone else? How did you respond?
  31. Did your class go to the library today?
  32. Did you ever feel unsafe?
  33. How were you brave?
  34. What made your teacher smile? Did anything make her frown?
  35. What are you reading in class? Can you relate to any of the characters?
  36. Rate your day on a scale from 1-10. Why did you pick that number?
  37. Did you fill someone’s bucket? Did someone fill yours?
  38. How can you help your classmates and school to be better?
  39. How do you feel that you did today? Why?
  40. What is something that challenged you? How did it make you feel?
  41. What four things did you use your pencil for?
  42. Did anyone cry?
  43. Did you have a trip to the computer lab today?
  44. Were there any guests that came to your class today? What did they do?
  45. What is something that you saw that made you think?
  46. Is there anyone new in your class?
  47. What games did you play in class?
  48. Did anything make you laugh hard?
  49. What equipment did you play with at recess?
  50. If you could be the teacher for the day what would you have the class do? Why?

I hope that these questions will help you get more answers from your children about their school day. Be sure to check out The BEST back to school ORGANIZATION IDEAS to get your home back-to-school ready!

29 comments

  1. My parents were working parents so I came home to an empty house! I know I would have appreciated anyone asking about my day 🙂 Great tips!

    1. Thank you! I’m sorry that you had to come home to an empty house. I know many working parents that feel guilty for having to work in order to provide for their families. It’s rough for kids and parents.

  2. This is a great list and I’ll definitely be using some of your suggestions. I quite often get the “fine” and “good” when I ask how the day was! Lol! Thanks for sharing this!

  3. Ok I posted a comment but I don’t see it lol so I shall post again! I love this list. I am a teacher so I know that students do things in class, but when I talk with parents some are so out of the loop with what we do in class it’s amazing. Great list and very helpful! Thank you!

    1. Thank you!There’s a lot that goes on at school even outside of the classroom that parents need to be aware of. I’m glad you liked the list!

  4. These are excellent suggestions! If I still had kids in school, I would definitely snag a few of these to ask. These actually follow the concept of writing assessment questions (which I do for freelance work and educational consulting) – ask questions that require more than a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer, to develop critical thinking and encourage dialogue. Nice job! 🙂

  5. Good questions! This is something every parents should be aware of for their childrens development and relationship. Dang I should bookmark this for future reference.

  6. Ahhh this was really interesting. I haven’t got any kids of my own, but I can imagine kids would get bored after a while and if you just ask “how was school today?” they would just answer with a generic “fine”!

  7. I love all of these questions, it gets your children to really think about their day and engage in conversation. It is so important to stay on track with your child(s)’ school day.

  8. I really like your questions. My only caveat would be that instead of asking number 30 in the negative, I would try to rephrase it in a positive way. Perhaps you could ask something like “Were you able to assist a friend that needed help in any way?”

    1. These questions are to give parents an idea of what to ask but some of them will need to be tailored to fit their child’s understanding. For example, my bonus daughter would take #30, as you rephrased, as helping a friend with a school task instead of addressing if there was any bullying going on. My hubby and I ask #30 (based on my bonus daughter’s understanding) to see if she or her friends are being bullied or even if she is standing by as her friends bully someone else. It’s certainly not a pretty question but it’s one that we ask to help tackle the huge bullying problem that public schools are facing. However, your kids may understand #30 as you rephrased to get the same answer as mine.

      I would say to parents to use these questions as a guideline but ask them in a way that your children will understand and would be able to answer them thoroughly.

      Thanks for sharing!

  9. Great conversation starters. Looking forward to implementing some of these. Thanks for taking the time to put these together. Wishing you continued success.

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